Let’s talk marriage:

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I’m not even gonna lie. Saying I Do is the easy part of marriage. The first 5 years of my marriage were hard. The day after my wedding my husband and I got into a huge argument over directions. So this is how our marriage would start. We were two different people trying to navigate life together. We were so stuck on the word husband and wife that we forgot to be friends. We had moments when we didn’t talk to one another. And there were many times during our marriage that I wanted to give up and just be done with it. I was tired of not getting it right. I heard people say that this is the honeymoon period. That never happened. It seemed like we were always arguing and not listening to one another. It felt like who could win this argument today. My husband grew up in a negative and hostile environment. So yelling was common growing up. So yelling is what he did a lot of. I was the opposite. We didn’t have yelling. We talked things out and listened to one another. But when you are two different people things don’t always work the way you think that they will. When we were friends and dating we never argued so this was new to us. It was a struggle every day to understand how we could do things better. But we got there. We were not perfect nor where we want to be but we are not where we use to be either. The next 4 years of marriage were trial and error. We didn’t want to get a divorce so we did counseling as a couple and individually. And there are times when things went great and not so great. So as we approach 10 years we have grown in ways that you can’t imagine. There are at times some yelling, but we have more sit down conversations. There are more love and respect for one another. When I look back on my marriage I’m glad I didn’t give up. I would have missed out on something beautiful.

Let’s talk about marriage:

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Have you ever dreamed of how you would be proposed to? Have you ever dreamed about how you would want your wedding to be? Nope, not me lol. I’m serious why would I dream about that when I didn’t want it. Well as my husband and I became friends and then when became a couple. It was an amazing process to go from the in-between stage to now a couple. And it didn’t feel any different. We were still committed to being the best of friends. And as I get closer to my wedding anniversary one thing has crossed my mind. I want to be a better friend to my husband. I’m not saying that I’m not a good friend, but I can be a better friend. Friendship means the world to me. My husband is the type of friend that I had needed in my life for so long. You don’t know what you need until someone amazing comes along in your life. Married men and women please make sure that you remain friends with your spouse.

Marriage Journey:

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My marriage hasn’t been perfect. But I want to take you on this marriage journey. The day of my wedding was the most exciting, scary, and uncertain day for me. I’ve been to many weddings but I have never been married so watching other brides get pampered and loved on is nothing that I have never experienced myself. I woke up that morning just thinking what today was going to be like. I was daydreaming about how I wanted my day to go. But as you know things don’t always work out how we want them to. I got up took a shower and was greeted with breakfast. And after that, it was time to get this show on the road. After I got dressed and makeup was done then it was time for pictures. When I tell you it all felt like a dream. I’m the type of person who is always on time and I also care about time. Because I don’t want to waste anyone’s time. But I was late for my wedding. It wasn’t my fault though. I made sure before I left my husband the night before that he better not be late for his wedding lol. And I was the one late. But that day was more than I could imagine. Our wedding was super small and we were both okay with that. It was a day full of love and joy. And it made me realize that how can one day bring so much love and joy and then we lose that feeling? I wish someone would have told me not to be so wrapped up in the wedding but to prepare for the future. But that day was more special then I could imagine. I’m blessed to be able to have a marriage that isn’t perfect but always a work in progress.

Marriage Journey:

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I still remember how I met my husband. I remember how much fun we use to have and all the times that we would look at each other and bust out laughing. We still enjoy having fun with one another and we still look at each other and just laugh. But something in me has changed since then. I still love him and want to be married to him. I guess for me a huge part of it is that I don’t want to be like my mom and go through a bitter divorce. It took my mom years before she got over my dad and what the divorce did to her. Growing up I had to see her go through depression and just not knowing how she could take care of me. I also heard how angry she was at not getting any help from my dad. My parents were just married for seven years. I’m going on ten years next month. I don’t want to mess this up. I want to get this thing called marriage right. It has been a journey and it hasn’t always been easy. There were times when I just wanted to quit and walk away. But when you are married to someone who truly cares about you and is your best friend it’s hard to give up. You may not always like what they do but it doesn’t mean that you have to give up on them. I didn’t get to see what marriage was really like one on one. Growing up in a single parent home didn’t make me want to be married because of the thought of divorce and how I could end up. But now I realize it’s not like that. There are times when divorce is an option because of how your being treated. I’m learning how to be a much better wife. I’m trying to get it right.

My Superhero:

I don’t think you know just how much you mean to me. You’re more like a superhero that’s not in my dreams. I can’t believe your my husband you’re like a dream come true. Your my superhero who’s not just in my dreams. I love you more than you know. Where would I be and what would I do? God only made one of you. I’m glad He blessed me with a man like you. Your more than I could have dreamed of. What can I say and what can I do? I’m just blessed that God gave me you. You’re more than a husband your my personal superhero.

Never knew a love like this:

I never knew a love like this
The touch of your hands
The taste of your kiss
I never knew a love like this
A love so strong I can’t resist
A love so rare what can you say
A love like this I will never stray
I never knew a love like this
I never knew a love like this
This love is rare, I can’t resist
I never knew a love like this