Love:

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My heart is so full and overflowing with love. My anniversary weekend has been so special and amazing. This has got to be my favorite and best anniversary. Thank you for all the love that was shown to me for our anniversary. Some of you know my story about my marriage. And getting to the place that I’m at today hasn’t been easy. But with God all things are possible. I’m learning that if you never go through anything hard you will never appreciate what you have. If everything has been easy maybe something isn’t right. I’m learning to enjoy each moment no matter how hard it is. I’m learning to love even when I don’t want to. I’m learning to say I’m sorry more. Marriage is a lot of work but it’s also teamwork. If you never let your spouse know how you feel or if there is a problem then you can’t expect things to get better. My love tank is overflowing with love right now. Even though we are in a pandemic this anniversary was awesome. I pray that my husband and I continue to grow and work on us.

Happy Anniversary:

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10 years ago my husband changed my last name. I can tell you that my wedding day was magical. The way my husband looked at me as I was walking down the aisle. I saw love and beauty written on his face. I saw my future with him and so much more. It hasn’t always been easy and we have overcome many obstacles. But one thing I can say is that we never gave up on one another. We may not be a perfect couple but we are perfect for one another. We may have not started off strong but we are stronger than ever. 10 years down and a lifetime to go. I thank God for this union and all the lessons that it has taught me. Happy Anniversary.

Let’s talk marriage:

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I’m not even gonna lie. Saying I Do is the easy part of marriage. The first 5 years of my marriage were hard. The day after my wedding my husband and I got into a huge argument over directions. So this is how our marriage would start. We were two different people trying to navigate life together. We were so stuck on the word husband and wife that we forgot to be friends. We had moments when we didn’t talk to one another. And there were many times during our marriage that I wanted to give up and just be done with it. I was tired of not getting it right. I heard people say that this is the honeymoon period. That never happened. It seemed like we were always arguing and not listening to one another. It felt like who could win this argument today. My husband grew up in a negative and hostile environment. So yelling was common growing up. So yelling is what he did a lot of. I was the opposite. We didn’t have yelling. We talked things out and listened to one another. But when you are two different people things don’t always work the way you think that they will. When we were friends and dating we never argued so this was new to us. It was a struggle every day to understand how we could do things better. But we got there. We were not perfect nor where we want to be but we are not where we use to be either. The next 4 years of marriage were trial and error. We didn’t want to get a divorce so we did counseling as a couple and individually. And there are times when things went great and not so great. So as we approach 10 years we have grown in ways that you can’t imagine. There are at times some yelling, but we have more sit down conversations. There are more love and respect for one another. When I look back on my marriage I’m glad I didn’t give up. I would have missed out on something beautiful.

Let’s talk about marriage:

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Have you ever dreamed of how you would be proposed to? Have you ever dreamed about how you would want your wedding to be? Nope, not me lol. I’m serious why would I dream about that when I didn’t want it. Well as my husband and I became friends and then when became a couple. It was an amazing process to go from the in-between stage to now a couple. And it didn’t feel any different. We were still committed to being the best of friends. And as I get closer to my wedding anniversary one thing has crossed my mind. I want to be a better friend to my husband. I’m not saying that I’m not a good friend, but I can be a better friend. Friendship means the world to me. My husband is the type of friend that I had needed in my life for so long. You don’t know what you need until someone amazing comes along in your life. Married men and women please make sure that you remain friends with your spouse.

Let’s talk marriage:

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I met my husband at a time where I had given up on love. I didn’t believe in true love anymore. I thought that men were all the same. I felt down when it came to love. But being around my husband as a friend opened my eyes and heart. I had put a wall up around my heart and I didn’t want any man near it. I could care less about being in a relationship. Until I started getting these weird butterflies in my stomach when we were together. I would love being close to him and just hanging out. When we weren’t together I wanted to be with him. It was a weird feeling because I was starting to want more from him than just a friendship. The odd thing was he was feeling the same way as well. We called this stage in our relationship the in-between stage. Because we weren’t a couple but we were acting like it. The bricks around my heart started coming down. I was able to trust again because with him there were no games. He was a straight shooter. We stayed in this in-between stage until we were ready to be a couple. And trust me it was worth the wait.

Let’s talk marriage:

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So my wedding anniversary is this week and I want to talk about my journey with marriage this week. I told all my friends that I was going to get married when I was 80 only because I wanted someone to die with lol. I was serious too. I didn’t feel like marriage was for me. I come from a single mom who got divorced from my dad when I was seven. And trust me my mom was so bitter and negative about my dad. So why in the world would I want to be married? My dad cheated on my mom and I had plenty of that in my relationships so why in the world would I want to be married? And then I met my husband. We started out as friends. And let me tell you he was a true friend. Whenever I called he was always there. I don’t use the word friend loosely because not everyone is a friend to me. But it was like we had known each other for years. When I said that taught me how to trust and love again. He made a lot of my fears about relationships with the opposite sex go away. But I never looked at him as someone I wanted to date let alone marries. Silly me lol. See you tomorrow for the rest.

A second look:

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I don’t know about you but when I’m looking for someone to date their are certain things that I look for or smell for. When I met my husband the one thing that caught my attention was how good he smelled. If you know me then you know that I absolutely love a man who smells good. This is a huge turn on for me. And the other thing that I noticed about him is that for some reason he was just confident not cocky. Well when I started a friendship with my husband he didn’t think he was confident but trust me he was. There are things about people that make me notice or take a second glance. Yes he is fine that is obvious but looks don’t mean that you will treat someone right. He was just a all around great person. So what made you take a second look or become interested in your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend?

Marriage Journey:

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My marriage hasn’t been perfect. But I want to take you on this marriage journey. The day of my wedding was the most exciting, scary, and uncertain day for me. I’ve been to many weddings but I have never been married so watching other brides get pampered and loved on is nothing that I have never experienced myself. I woke up that morning just thinking what today was going to be like. I was daydreaming about how I wanted my day to go. But as you know things don’t always work out how we want them to. I got up took a shower and was greeted with breakfast. And after that, it was time to get this show on the road. After I got dressed and makeup was done then it was time for pictures. When I tell you it all felt like a dream. I’m the type of person who is always on time and I also care about time. Because I don’t want to waste anyone’s time. But I was late for my wedding. It wasn’t my fault though. I made sure before I left my husband the night before that he better not be late for his wedding lol. And I was the one late. But that day was more than I could imagine. Our wedding was super small and we were both okay with that. It was a day full of love and joy. And it made me realize that how can one day bring so much love and joy and then we lose that feeling? I wish someone would have told me not to be so wrapped up in the wedding but to prepare for the future. But that day was more special then I could imagine. I’m blessed to be able to have a marriage that isn’t perfect but always a work in progress.

Water your grass:

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I don’t always recognize or appreciate what I have. I tend to look at everyone around me to measure if what I have is good enough. How low of me I know. And it took me a while to understand that you can never and should never base what you have on what someone else has. I have noticed that a lot of relationships are built on lies or contracts. And the relationships that I was looking it hasn’t lasted because what I thought that my marriage had to measure up to be is not true. You could be looking at something that seems right on the outside but is so full of destruction on the inside. How foolish of me to ever do this when I first got married. I didn’t know any better. I heard so many people compare their relationships to others so I felt like it was normal. One piece of advice I would love to give others is please don’t look at someone else’s relationship and feel like yours have to be this way. There is nothing wrong with modeling your relationship after someone else’s only if you know them. Don’t look at people you don’t know because it might look good on the outside, but please water your grass before you get envious of someone else’s grass.