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November is the month where people share what they are grateful for. So many times we feel like if we had more, or if we only had this we would be more grateful. To me, gratitude should be more than about stuff. But sometimes the things that you have to make you grateful. I’m very grateful for my husband. Through my unemployment and finding a job and losing that job, he has been a source of encouragement for me. He hasn’t made me feel bad about not having a job. He has actually helped me with being a better me. He bought me a book that has helped me with my healing and learning to let go of my past. He has made it clear that a job doesn’t define me as a person. When I have been at my lowest and most stressed out he has been there to lift me up. I love that no matter what he is there. I’m very grateful to him. Through this pandemic, so many people have divorced and separated, but we have gotten closer. Marriage is not a bed of roses but it can be beautiful if you have someone who is willing to be there for you through it all.

Husband Appreciation Day

Today is husband appreciation day. Well I don’t need a day to appreciate my husband. I appreciate him everyday. My husband is my protector, my best friend, my secret keeper and so much more. Wives I know that marriage can get rough and we may feel like it’s all about us. But take a minute and think about all the things you’re husband deals with daily. They do things for us that are seen and unseen. My husband doesn’t ask for much but if I could I would give him the world and more. So ladies let’s take more time out to truly appreciate the men in your lives.

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Teaching others:

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As I have been focused on myself this year, I have noticed that my husband has been focused on me as well. I’m not saying that he never focused on me, but this year has been amazing so far. There are things that I have mention in conversation about what I would like to do or he has seen me doing something and has done above what I would do for myself. So let me give you some examples I’m a simple woman trust me all the stuff people buy others don’t thrill me. Don’t get me wrong I like gifts but I like other things more. My husband has been helping me clean the kitchen more. When he sees that I’m overdoing it with something he will tell me to go rest that he will finish it. I have been working out and my old Fitbit watch was dying. I was blessed with that watch from a friend when she got two for Christmas some years back. I didn’t want to spend tons of money on a watch like that but there were certain things on the watch that I wanted. Well, my husband did some research and surprised me with a new watch which I love more than the Fitbit. He’s been doing more and our conversation flow has become so much better. I never knew that when I started focusing on myself and not the needs of others all the time, that I was teaching other’s what I needed.

A letter to my husband:

I can’t believe how lucky I am to have you. I haven’t always been the easiest person to get along with, but you loved me anyway. I remember when we first met you were like a breath of fresh air. You got me and understood me. It was like you were waiting for me to love me. I needed you in my life at that time more than you know. You helped me heal and knock down walls that I thought would stay up forever. You are full of love, deep conversations, and laughs. Being silly and having fun was our thing and we still enjoy it. I know that I have hurt your feelings many times and I regret that. I have never wavered in my love for you. People don’t understand how we fit, but we do. Your quite and I’m talkative. I’m still glad that you choose me to be your wife. I’m glad that you are my protector, provider and my love. Thank you for your laughs, encouragement and being there for me. You are truly my best friend and my cuddle buddy. I don’t know what I would do without you. I love you very much.