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Good morning everyone. Welcome to a new week. I have been super busy since the last time that I posted. Life can teach you so many lessons and some lessons are so simple that we just have to be reminded. I’m the type of person who doesn’t like to ask for help unless I really need it. But lately, I have been feeling myself getting stressed out. I work, come, home cook, clean, and do anything else that needs to be done. If I see that it needs to be done then I will do it. And I had to learn that I’m not superwoman, I can’t do it all. Yes, my husband and daughter help but not as much as I felt like they could. My body has been so drained that the past week I just said forget it. I’m not doing a lot of cooking or cleaning and I didn’t. Teamwork isn’t about one person doing it all. It’s about the team communicating with each other. And that is where my household fell short. We were not communicating about what needed to be done and who will do it. I’m a firm believer that every lesson is a blessing. As a team where one is weak, another is strong. If I would have never communicated how I felt things would have continued and no one would have understood the strain that I was under. I need to do better with my communication. But at least now my team and I are on the same page.

Time to become better:

Communication is so important. Im stubborn at times and I feel like people know what I need at all times. But they don’t. I have always been a surface communicator. I have learned some valuable and hard lessons this week. This week has taught me not to assume people know how you feel. Common sense right? Well sometimes I forget that. But also that people love and care for you. They need to know that you are okay and to tell them what you need. Talk to others about things that matter no matter how you think someone else might feel. Always try to speak with love and not anger. Your feelings matter as well as others. Talking with people can help clear up a lot of confusion and distrust. Communication can be hard but the results of expressing yourself are so worth it. Im working becoming a better communicator.

Understanding:

If you know anything about me from writing on my blogs is that communication and I are not friends. But we are getting better. Well here is another issue that seems to be huge in my marriage and that is understanding. It may seem easy to understand where someone is coming from or someone else perspective. But for me, it’s not. I don’t ask a lot of questions about why people do what they do. I just let people be. But for my husband understanding is something that we argue about a lot. He feels like I don’t understand him and well I don’t. I do see why he ask certain questions and other times I’m irritated by all the questions. We are both extreme opposites. We are both laid back but I’m more go with the flow type of person. I don’t need to know everything to be okay with you. Your vibes will tell me if something is off. But for my husband, it’s totally different. He needs me to understand so that there won’t be so many disagreements and to help me understand him better. I get it but I don’t. I’m working on this as we speak. Somethings should be so cut and dry easy right? Well for me it’s not always that way. But as I have always said I’m learning.

Communication:

I’m sitting here listening to the rain and reflecting on my life. Here is a question that has been on my mind. Why don’t you tell your spouse what you need from him? Well, I’m not a great communicator. That shouldn’t be an excuse right? RIght. But the truth is I’m not. I’m a physical touch type of girl. I have always been a physical touch type of girl. I love hugs, kissing, hand holding all of that. But my husband is not that type of guy. When I was hurt I got none of that. And that made me mad. Why didn’t I just tell him that’s what I needed? Well, I’m a surfer talker. It’s easy just say that you want some affection right? Wrong. I don’t know why I can’t say it. But this morning I told my husband this is what I need the most. He was like why didn’t I just tell him instead of always being angry with him about my expectations that he knew nothing about. Well, that’s where communication comes in. I’m working hard on my communication. I love just taking the time to sit back and just think. Working on me is bettering me. I have a long way to go but I’m going to get there. When you tell people what you need it makes life a little easier.