How are you?

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How are you doing? No really how are you doing? So many times when I ask people how are you doing, they always say that they’re fine. But in reality, they are not fine, they just don’t want to burden us. Well please burden me. I want to be that listening ear. I want to be the person that you can reach out to for support. So many times especially us women we just say we are fine. But in reality, we need someone to listen to us. A shoulder to lean on. We need to hear the words girl I got you. We will get through this together. So many people are dying in silence because they don’t want to burden others. This used to be me, but not anymore. Get with someone that you trust and who has your back. If you don’t have anyone I’m here for you. Please reach out because no one should ever suffer in silence. So how are you doing?

The best me:

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How is everyone doing? I’m great. I have taken the time to truly work on myself and I’m loving the woman that I am. I have taken time to heal some of my hurts. I have taken the time to discover myself. And I have taken the time to truly know what and who is for me. So much has changed in my life and for the better. My marriage is amazing. I’m so appreciative of my husband who always has encouraged me to dream and love myself. I have discovered new things about myself. I have once again fallen in love with myself. I have an amazing new job. I have rekindled some old friendships that mean a lot to me. I’m on cloud 9 right now. I’m still limiting my time on social media. But I can’t explain to you how much working on yourself is so important. I have always neglected myself to help others work on themselves. But that has all changed. I’m putting myself and my mental health first and then helping others. This journey is not over but I love that all the hard work is finally paying off. I will always have to work on myself but not as hard anymore. Self-care+Self-love+working on yourself=the best version of you. So when was the last time that you spent time with yourself? When was the last time that you worked on yourself? Your with yourself all day every day, so why not make yourself the best you?

Are you living or just existing?

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Are you living or just existing? So many of us are just existing because we don’t know what it’s like to fully live. And yes I’m speaking about myself on this one. What does it truly mean to live a life that you have always wanted and dreamed about? I’m not sure. Some may think you have to have a certain amount of money. Some may feel like it’s how many vacations you take. But for me truly living is doing what I love and going where I want. I feel like I’m just existing because I’m bound to a job that is okay. It doesn’t fulfill me it’s just a means to make money. What would I love to be doing? Now that’s a great question. I want to help others, and do things that make me happy with no time restrictions or make someone else rich. I want to live and right now that is so important to me at this moment. But back to my main question. Are you living or just existing?

Don’t stop dreaming:

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How many of us are living a life full of dreams that we are doing nothing about? In the last book that I read called More to Life. It really made me think about my life and what I want to do. I have spent so many years being a wife and mother that I have placed my dreams on the shelf. So many things that I want to do, but now I feel like is it too late. Am I too old? What if my dreams are just plain silly? This book had me thinking that we give so much of ourselves to others that we don’t take the time to give to ourselves in the same way. Why is that? Are we not just as important? Do let your dreams sit on a shelf somewhere and die. Dust those dreams off no matter how old they may be. And you are never to old to stop dreaming.

Book review: More to life by: ReShonda Tate Billingsley

I love a good book that really makes me think about life and what I want out of life. This book More to Life is one that will really have you thinking. This book is about a woman named Aja who had a terrible childhood. It was full of abuse and trauma. But one thing of her childhood that she loved doing was painting with her mother. Her high school counselor thought that she should be doing something else in college besides art. So she decided to become a social worker. She gets married to the most amazing man and has two children. Her life get’s so consumed with being a wife and a mother that it leaves her no time to paint. Her family thinks that her painting is a hobby or a way to relieve stress. Her husband plans a 45th birthday party with her three best friends. Nothing like a tropical getaway to realize that you’re unhappy in your life. She meets a woman while on vacation that speaks to her soul and sees her for who she really is. And instead of heading back home to her family after her vacation is over she stays an extra week. When she finally gets back home she knows what she needs to do. But things don’t work out well when she gets back home. This book is a must-read.

Book review: Seven days in June

This book had my mind, heart, and emotions all over the place. This book is definitely a lover, lover’s book. If you believe in love and the endless possibilities of love, then this is your book. So the book is about Eva Mercy moving to DC with her mom. They moved around a lot depending on who Eva’s mom was dating at the time. Eva is in a new city, a new school, and has no friends. On the first day of school before the bell rings she meets this fine young man named Shane. And Eva and Shane’s life will never be the same again. Two people who completely understand each other’s dysfunction. But who needs each other to function? This beautifully woven story is about tragedy and love. Two kids who grow up to become authors of best-selling books based on one another. But it’s been 15 years since they have seen each other. What happens when they reconnect?

Book review: Cut and Run

This story was about a woman who got kidnapped by her husband’s son. Yes, I said her husband’s son. It wasn’t uncommon for Countess Annie de Silva to go away from time to time and not tell anyone. But to leave after a mysterious phone call. And all she left was a cryptic note. Gone for three months and no one had a clue where she could be. Except for one person who has known her, her whole life. But should she go after her best friend or just wait it out? What will she find when she gets there? This book was definitely a page-turner for sure. I’ve read a few of Fern Michael’s books and I haven’t been disappointed yet.


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As we are 17 days into the New Year the word growth has been kicking my butt. I never realized that growth could be so painful and also encouraging at the same time. I have been learning and relearning so many different things. I have grown in areas that I have taken for granted. I’m proud of how far that I have come but I know that this is just the beginning. I wish growth was an overnight process but what would be the learning point right? I’m committed to a better me in 2023. This growth is going to take me to places I never thought that I could go.

Let’s think about MLK day:

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As we celebrate MLK day I have to stop and think about what he would think about today. Are we any closer to becoming a better society? Are we better as a people? Are we better as a race? I think that he would be disappointed, to be honest. Why are we still hung up on skin color? Why are we still trying to keep certain races down? Can’t we live in peace? Why as a race are we still battling one another? I know that we are supposed to celebrate the life and legacy of Martin Luther King Jr., but how can we do that we things are not changing? As I look at life I wonder why things have to be the way that they are. There is no joy in knowing that the color of my skin will always hold me back. It hurts that people can still use racial slurs and there is no action taken. It’s not okay that your skills don’t get you the job but knowing that they have to have several minorities is the only reason you got the job. When will things be equal? When will things really change? Again I ask will Martin Luther King Jr., be happy with how things are today? I would have to say sadly that he wouldn’t. As you celebrate today think about how you can make a difference even a change in society or your own life.

Poem: Hello Me

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Hello me I’m glad your back
You have had deaths and many setbacks
Girl don’t let people bring you down
You glow and love all around
Hello me I’m glad your back
You have dealt blow after blow
I see you smiling through your tears
Hello me It’s been some years
See things are gonna be different now
More smiles and fewer frowns
Hello me girl I’m so glad your back
Please know that the best is yet to come
Hello me where have you been
So glad to see you again my dear friend
Hello me shout it out loud
Girl, you let life leave you scared
Hello me hello me hello me
I’m glad we were meant to be