Life lessons:

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Why is it that we have family members and friends that we don’t talk to? I was reflecting on this topic a while ago. I’m that person who reached out to everyone but hardly does anyone reach out to me. I’ve learned that if I don’t check on people then I will never talk to them. This bothers me because why am I the only one reaching out? Why am I the one who is taking time out of my day to check on you? I wonder at times do you ever think about me and if I’m okay? Do you ever have the urge to check on me? This used to bother me, but one day my mom was like have you talked to such and such and I said no. And she was like why not? And I told her the only time that I talk to this person is when I reach out, if they care about me then they can reach out as well. One day I experimented and I didn’t text anyone for a week. I wanted to see who would reach out to me and I was very surprised to see the same people texted me every day. That said a lot to me about who cares, after that week I made an effort to be intentional with the people who care. It bothered me at first but now I’m okay with my small circle. I only want those who want me. Life teaches us many lessons.

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Good morning everyone. Welcome to a new week. I have been super busy since the last time that I posted. Life can teach you so many lessons and some lessons are so simple that we just have to be reminded. I’m the type of person who doesn’t like to ask for help unless I really need it. But lately, I have been feeling myself getting stressed out. I work, come, home cook, clean, and do anything else that needs to be done. If I see that it needs to be done then I will do it. And I had to learn that I’m not superwoman, I can’t do it all. Yes, my husband and daughter help but not as much as I felt like they could. My body has been so drained that the past week I just said forget it. I’m not doing a lot of cooking or cleaning and I didn’t. Teamwork isn’t about one person doing it all. It’s about the team communicating with each other. And that is where my household fell short. We were not communicating about what needed to be done and who will do it. I’m a firm believer that every lesson is a blessing. As a team where one is weak, another is strong. If I would have never communicated how I felt things would have continued and no one would have understood the strain that I was under. I need to do better with my communication. But at least now my team and I are on the same page.

Let’s talk positive:

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This week has been pretty amazing. I have to say that I’m loving how I do things now. As you know I started a new job this week that I’m really loving, but more importantly than that, I have started a new habit. My new habit is on my way to work in the morning I talk to God. I take as long as I need to let him know how grateful I am and what’s on my heart. In the mornings I just use to read my devotionals and journal and that was it. But I have gotten in the habit of really talking to God and trying to build a better relationship with him. Not only that but I’m getting in the habit of really talking better to myself. My self-talk used to be horrible but now I’m a lot kinder to myself. I have had to learn that just because you go through something doesn’t mean that you have to be ugly to yourself. God has me and always will. I need to be kinder to myself. So how is your self-talk?

It get’s greater later:

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I have heard the saying that it gets greater later. Well, I’m here to tell you that that is the truth. I use to be in some pretty unhealthy relationships and when I started working on myself and not worrying about being in the next relationship that is when I found who God had for me. I remember one day after church a friend of mine was talking to me about writing down everything that she was looking for in a man. I was like I’m going to have to try that because what I’m doing isn’t working at all for me. So I wrote down what I wanted in a man. And I forgot all about that paper until I met my husband. God gave me what I needed and wanted in one person. As I’m going through a new transition in life my jobs have always been in the medical field, legal field, or just administration field. And the money was great and the experience was great but I felt like I needed more and to be honest deserve more. It feels like no matter how hard you work no one notices the person doing more than others. Others can do enough to get by or enough to always ask for help. I’ve been discouraged about the job search. I’m very picky either it was too far, overqualified, or just wasn’t interested in the job. So I went on a job interview last week and the job interview was amazing. But there was one catch to it and that made me not want to take the job because of my lack in one area. Well, let me tell you the lady who interviewed me said that I was a diamond in the rough and that she didn’t mean to scare me off about this one particular part of the job. She wanted me and told the staffing agency that. Let me just say this I needed to get out of my comfort zone. It’s a little farther than I would have liked to go, but it’s time for me to step out and stop letting things interfere with what God has for me. Not only do I have a new job that I start on Monday, but also new pay. So yes it does get greater later. If you have been with me since the beginning you know that I share my life and I keep it 100% real on here. My journey will not look like yours but one thing about a journey you will always learn something from it.

Book review:The Graves

Oh my oh my. This is my first time reading a book by this author. But let me just say I’m definitely a fan. This book kept me on my toes. I love a good mystery mixed with a great story line. So this book is about a DA who has to find out who’s killing young college girls. But mixed in with her job she has some feelings for her co-worker. Mixed that in with the fact that she is dating someone and comes across a man who has sparked her interest. But aside from her job and love life. Her parents have cut her off from her inheritance because they don’t like her line of work. But someone who has gotten close to her doesn’t have her best interest at heart. But don’t be fooled by a good looking man. It might turn out deadly. This book is a great page turner. I will definitely be checking out more of her books.

Greater later:

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Have you ever just felt like nothing is working out. No matter how hard you try? It feels like I’m going on endless interviews with no luck at all. Either I’m not qualified for a job or the job is too far away. It feels overwhelming all in itself. I know that things will work out in their own time, but right now it seems overwhelming. I have taken the day to not let it bother me because it’s my husband’s birthday. I’m grateful for him and all that he has done for me. He’s the most giving and understanding person I know. He always has encouraging words when he knows that I’m dealing with something. So as I always say, this too shall pass. I hope everyone is having a great day.

I don’t understand:

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It’s hard for me to sit here and think about all the people who have been killed by guns. It’s every harder for me to sit here and think that an unarmed black man was shoot over 60 times by police. And then on the 4th of July, you have a mass shooter shooting at innocent people for no reason. And yet he wasn’t killed. But he killed and injured other people. I just don’t understand at all. Yes, the black man had a gun in his car. But he was outside of his car. He didn’t kill anyone but yet his body was riddled with bullets. Someone, please help me make sense of this? I’m tired of seeing black people gunned down like dogs while others don’t even have a scratch on them. When is this going to stop? I’m trying to understand but I just don’t.

New month, more kindness:

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It’s a new month and I hope that everyone is doing good. I have been good. I’m not where I want to be, but that’s okay. I have read so many stories about people who are seeking to do better and be better in their lives. And to be honest I feel like that is what we all should be striving for every day. Your smile could brighten someone’s day. Just asking a stranger how they are doing could make their day better. I know we live in a world where things are pretty bad. But that doesn’t mean that we can’t be kind. Kindness doesn’t cost you anything but time. I was at the store and I saw a lady who had a sign that said needing food. It broke my heart because that could have been me or someone that I loved. I’m unemployed but the cash that I had on me I gave to her. And I saw the looks of people who were looking at me like I did something wrong. But you don’t know that when I gave her the four dollars how she cried. I don’t think this lady was scamming anyone, I believe that she genuinely needed help. And it was at that moment that other people came and handed her money. Sadly, judgment can make you feel a certain way about yourself. But it takes one person who cares that will make all the difference. My hope this month is that we will all use kindness as are motto. You may not want to give money to someone homeless, but you can do small things. I know that everyone will be with family and friends today, but take the time to be intentional about your conversations with people. Be intentional with your smile and be genuine in the things that you do for others. I hope everyone has a great day.

Book review: Every breath you take

When I tell you’ll that I love me some Mary Higgins Clark books. Going from reading books that I truly didn’t get or were just so boring, to this little gem here. Okay so let me give you a little about this book. It’s about a wealthy widow who ends up dying at her charity event. But who killed her remained the mystery. Her kids thought it was her way younger boyfriend and some thought it was her son. But to be honest, I thought it was one of these two, maybe it was and maybe it wasn’t. When I tell you that I love mystery books. This book was no different. I love everything about this book, I couldn’t put it down. Every free moment I had I was reading this book. I give it 5 out of 5 stars. If you have read this book please let me know your thoughts.

Book review: Little Disasters

Well here we go again. The title should have been a warning to me. This book is so confusing and when I tell you I only got to page 187. I had, had enough of this book. I didn’t finish it y’all. Maybe I will pick it back up later but my goodness all types of confusion. If you have read this book please let me know if it’s worth re-reading or not. I don’t like to not finish books. But this is the second book in a row that was awful 🤦🏽‍♀️. Okay let’s hope my next review is better than this one. This is a no for me.