It’s time to look at the people in our circle. Spring is here so it’s time to do some spring cleaning when it comes to the people in our circle. It’s time to let some friendships go. Who is hanging around you just because you have what they want? Who is your YES friend but won’t ever tell you when you are wrong? How about that friend that’s only around when they want something? You know we all have these types of friends. This is just a small list but it’s time to let some of these people go. You need people in your circle who are genuine and will celebrate with you. You need people in your life who will call you out when you’re doing wrong. It’s time to spring clean your circle of friends, just me it’s time to let go of people who have no benefit in your life.
I was messaged by several people wanting to know how I started my journey of healing and just getting to where I am now. Well, the first thing you have to do is get tired of doing the same thing and getting the same results. I had to decide that enough was enough. I started journaling and then made a decision that I needed extra help so I found a counselor and she made all the difference. I had to change my mindset and how I allowed people to treat me. I also had to value myself and love myself. But most of all I had to be committed to making a better me and sticking with the plan that I had made for myself. There were different books that I read that also helped me along the way. But you are important and taking care of yourself is just as important as well. Start somewhere and decide to stick to whatever plan you make for yourself. Trust me you can’t go wrong.
My journey to peace and joy:
Good Sunday morning everyone. I want to talk to you all about peace and joy. I had been going through some things for about 4 years now. And people would have thought that I had peace and joy but I didn’t. It’s so easy to fake and hide how you feel from other people. I’ve always been good at masking my feelings, but something had to give and quickly. I started going to counseling to deal with my feelings and what was going on. That helped me so much at the time. She gave me tools to help me and I’m at a place that I never thought that I would be at. I had to take some hard looks at my life and who was in my life. Was I okay with how things were going? Why did I put up with certain things? Just because we are friends and family doesn’t mean you can treat me a certain way. There were so many things that I had to figure out and it wouldn’t be overnight. But once you start putting in the work for yourself you start to see changes. And you can’t give up or give in either. You have to stick to your plan because you have to understand you are just as important as anyone else. I didn’t value myself or even love myself like I thought I did. I was so busy making sure others were okay and had what they needed from me, that I didn’t even give myself what I needed. Fast forward to now. When I smile it’s genuine. When I laugh it’s from the heart and sincere. When I tell you that I have worked so hard to get to where I am and I refuse to let anyone take that from me. My peace and joy took me a long time to find and I have found them. I’m still not done doing the work myself but the results so far are amazing. I have read so many blogs, Instagram posts, and Facebook posts about people wanting to make a change and how it’s hard. Yes, it’s going to be hard but you have to start somewhere if you want to change your life. No one is going to do the work for you. You have to commit to doing better for yourself. When will you put yourself first? When will you change? Listen if this is you start today. Start by journaling your feelings. Start by asking yourself the hard questions. Start by googling books that can help you with what you’re going through. Start by looking for a therapist if that’s what you need. But the main thing is to start somewhere. Don’t give up on yourself or put yourself to the side. You wouldn’t do that for anyone else so why would you do that to yourself? Peace and joy take time but when you find it you will know that it was worth putting in the work.
I just wanted to stop by and make sure that you were taking care of yourself. If not then why not? You are just as important as anyone else. So on this wisdom Wednesday please take the time to take care of yourself. You are loved so take care of yourself please. Have a great Wednesday.
New week, New You:
Good Monday morning,
So it’s a new week and a new day. So what are you going to do differently with your life? How are you going to work on your mental health? How are you going to take care of yourself? New week new you. You are so important and never forget that. You matter to so many people around you. Never think that you’re too busy to take care of yourself because you are not. This is a new week and I’m excited to do some things differently and to start some new adventures. Life is not going to wait for you to get yourself together. Each day is a new day to be better. So this is a new week how are you going to spend it?
Self-care Sunday. What are you going to do today to take care of yourself? How do you take care of yourself? When do you make yourself a priority? If you don’t then today is the day that you need to start. You are important too. You need to pour into yourself because if you don’t then you don’t have much to give to others. When do you take the time to relax and just spend some time with yourself? Some of my favorite self-care things to do are make myself some tea and just listen to some calming music. I always like to get a good book and just relax on the couch. I love tending to my plants. Self-care is just not for the ladies only. Men, you need some self-care as well. We all need to take a day, an hour, or longer to do something for ourselves. When will you start putting yourself first? How about today? You only have one self so do something to take care of yourself today.
Just a little dream:
What dreams have you not pursued? What dreams have you forgotten about? What dreams have you let other people talk you out of? What dreams have you thought were impossible? I have a dream but I have only thought about it here and there. People are doing what I would love to do, but why am I not doing it? Well, I felt like I wasn’t good enough. But how do you know you are not good enough if you haven’t tried? Well okay, let me take that back I have tried and succeeded. But now that I really think about it, I was my happiest doing it. So today I have decided to do this thing scared and put myself back out there again. I love reviewing and helping people with their books. So I’m going to offer my services again to people. Whatever your passion or dream is no matter how scared or how old it is do it anyway. What do you have to lose honestly?
Keep your head up:
No matter what you are going through never give up. Keep pushing and know that you are going to have an awesome outcome. So many people are going through things and it’s so easy to want to give up. But keep going. This is my pep talk daily. No matter what please keep your head up and keep going. You are stronger than you know. You are doing awesome just know that trouble doesn’t last always.
A new day:
Good morning everyone. A new day and a new week. Means new possibilities. We all have a chance to do something new each week. Meaning we can start a new and healthy change in our lives. You can start working on a project that you have put off for years. You can call or text someone that has been on your mind for days. You can look for ways to help others out. A new week is full of amazing possibilities. We should never limit ourselves or think that we can’t do something because we don’t have the time. It’s a new week and a new day what do you want to start doing now?
There are always blessings in lessons. And I know that trouble doesn’t last always. And even though this week isn’t up I have learned some hard lessons. But they have also become a blessing. There will always be people who let any type of power or title go to their heads. And they enjoy using that power to make people feel small and powerless. They don’t care who they hurt as long as they are getting what they want. I have had a week from well you know where. And this week isn’t over with but my problem is over with. When you try your best to do your job and someone makes your job ten times harder than it should be, you start to think is it me? This person who wasn’t even my boss nor worked in my department made my life miserable and she did everything in her power to let me know she didn’t care how I felt. No matter how many times I went to management she always won well because she thought she was making my department better but instead she made it worse. I often wonder when people get into a position of power do they ever think about when they were new? When they were starting? How were they treated? But I learned my lesson that sometimes you have to be the bigger person and I wasn’t but we all have times when enough is enough. Life is way too short to be okay with workplace bullying and intimidation. Life is full of lessons and I will always be learning.