Marriage Journey: Part 4

One thing that I have learned about being married for almost 11 years is this. 

1. I have someone who wants to do this marriage with me and isn’t giving up.
2. I have someone who works as hard as me to make sure that this marriage succeeds.
3. I have someone who encourages me and prays with and for me.
4. I have someone who asks me how I’m doing and want to make sure that I’m good.
5. I have someone who feels like having self-care time is important for our marriage.

We don’t do marriage just to say that we are married we take this seriously. I use to want to model my marriage after some friends but they are not us and they are no longer married. We put in time which is important for a lasting marriage. We talk about the things that are bothering us and how to improve our marriage. One thing that I have learned about being married from some friends is getting someone who really wants to be married and your marriage will be better. What I mean is that many women put pressure on men to have the wedding of their dreams but not the marriage of their dreams. Which are two different things. I got a man who was ready for marriage where I wasn’t so ready. My parents divorced when I was 7 and trust me when I say that it’s something that I never want to experience. But my fear went away when I have seen how much my husband was really wanting this with me. But more importantly, what I have learned from other couples is that you do your marriage your way not someone else’s way. Don’t have everyone in your marriage keep things to yourself. Don’t tell everyone your marriage problems if you’re not seeking advice and not a petty gossip session. Your marriage can and will be successful when you put in the work.