So I have a question for you. Do you believe that when you are in a relationship with someone that one person loves or does more than the other person? I would say that’s true. I have been that person past and present and I wonder why. I don’t know if it’s what I have seen growing up or just in me period. I’ve always been a giver and I always want to make sure that people know that I care. Maybe in some ways, that’s a good thing, but I have seen it where people do take advantage of you because you are nice and kind. But does it matter who much or how little you do for someone?
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I think it’s important to have balance, and maybe that’s where love languages come in. One person may demonstrate their love more overtly, but the other person should have some way of conveying their love.
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You are so right about this. I don’t always see my husband love language but it’s only because it’s not what I would do. I had to start looking at what he does in his own way.
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I have yet to be in a relationship that has balance. I am the one giving and caring too much. I have been on a relationship break for 3 years, this includes no dating. I want to take time to balance my life and pay attention the next, if I decide to welcome another relationship, I will be very watchful of my behavior.
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So true. I completely understand where you are coming from.
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This is interesting because I feel in many ways I and my daughter are the same. I used to worry that she was being taken advantage of, but she gave me the perspective of her not wanting or expecting anything in return. She simply does for others because she see’s a need, she feels it’s Gods will and she was in a position to do so, even if it’s just listening. If /when she ever feels her kindness is being abused she distances herself, not getting angry at the person but taking note and then only prays for them.
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I like this perspective. I always get mad. Never looked at distancing myself from someone.
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I’ve had to do that lately to who I thought was a friend. I just keep her in my prayers and hopes she figures out how to do better.
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I prefer things to be 50/50 but life doesn’t let that happen a lot. I am a giver so I end up being used. I am in the midst of the end of a relationship that I gave too much without it being reciprocated and I’m wondering what happened. Perhaps I gave too much? I don’t know. It’s looking like I will never get an answer.
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I totally understand where you are coming from. I use to be in a relationship like that
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