This is hard: Please read

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I’m not going to say that I’m the best parent in the world because I’m not. Truly understanding your child can be difficult when you are trying to parent and protect. My heart broke yesterday talking to my daughter and trying to understand where she is coming from. Mental health is so important in children as well. As you have read before my daughter graduated from high school in 2020. And let’s just say that the traditional graduation ceremony didn’t happen. I had started seeing a change in her then but I just thought that she was upset about not going the traditional route. Then on top of that people that she thought would celebrate with her didn’t even acknowledge her or her achievements. This broke my heart. We talked about it and I thought things were fine. Remember we are all trying to navigate this pandemic at the time. But her mood shifted and she started going out more, not being home when off work. Then college started and her college was doing online school. This was going great until around November when things with school became less important. I was riding her hard about not doing school work but she was more concerned with work and hanging out with friends. Remember there is a pandemic going on. My daughter is at high risk because she has asthma. I’m fussing at her about being gone all the time and how people are dying from COVID and it felt like the conversation was going on deaf ears. I knew her mood had shifted to something that I didn’t like. We got into it quite a bit and we even stopped talking to one another. What is going on with this girl? I don’t understand her mood and what she is going through. But the part that hurts the most is she was acting out in pain. Parents your children are going through things and they need you. Not to judge or get on them. But to help them work through this process. We are all struggling from this pandemic but I didn’t pay enough attention to my daughter’s cry for help. I’m listening now. This pains me to write but I don’t want other parents to go through what I have been through. Yes, my motto this year is to work on myself, but right now I have to put myself on the back burner and have these honest talks with my daughter. I didn’t know how much she was struggling. I thought it was all her friends, but it’s not. We are taking steps to get things right. There has always been this stigma about black people seeking counseling well if it’s going to help my daughter then that is what is going to happen. Parents please pay attention to your children and listen to them. They are struggling through this pandemic as much as we are. I’m sorry if I have shared too much but this is what I do on my blog.

12 thoughts on “This is hard: Please read

  1. I am sorry to hear about what your daughter is going through. It is a hard time for them transitioning to college and adulthood. Keep the line of communication open between you two and seek professional help if necessary. I will keep both of you in my prayers. Take care. Scott

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  2. Keep her, close to your heart. Indeed, they’re precious, and they’re going through a lot. As a parent, “what ever it takes, to help them through it.” I know first hand how Covid, is pushing our kids to a breaking point.

    Father, I pray for Colleen, your daughter, and her family. I pray your peace and strength, will be their portion. Bind them together, with love and oneness. In Jesus’ name, Amen!

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  3. Thank you for your transparency. Everyone’s dealing with a lot of loneliness and isolation during this time. My hope is that she’ll find some of the counselor’s suggestions useful. Therapy/counseling are a great resource. Although you said you’re putting yourself on the back burner, use it for you too. I’m sure it’ll help you cope individually and together. So often, therapy is stigmatized in our community. But the stigma isn’t valid. Yes you can solve your own problems but sometimes you need professional resources to help you work through your issues and to develop healthy practices instead of toxic patterns.

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