One of the things that I wanted to change about myself is the words that I use. I wanted to change how I spoke to my husband. I know that words have value and there are times when he makes me mad our just irritates me that I don’t always use the best words. And to be honest it hurt me because why would I want to hurt him with words when I can uplift him with words. I have noticed that since I have been fasting that I have more patience with him and that I take the time to understand where he is coming from. My words are more loving and they show that I care. I make sure to uplift him and affirm him. But it hasn’t always been easy in doing this, but I had to decide to truly change how I speak to him. And I’m also showing him how the words that he speaks to himself are not true and kind. I may have days when I slip and say some mean things to him, but I’m not aware of how I talk to him and the words that I use with him.
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This is very important and I’m glad you’re taking steps to uplift your husband with encouraging words. As the Bible mentions, you two are one flesh (Matthew 19:6) so any mean words said towards him is ultimately hurting you too even if you don’t realize it at first. That’s why husbands are directed to love their wives as themselves. Any negativity hurts both parties in the long run (Ephesians 5:28-31). The union of two imperfect people will always have some tribulation but what I’ve learned in my 15 years of marriage is prayer helps build patience. Pray when he irritates you. Let him hear you pray on his behalf and pray together. You’ll build a bond that’s unbreakable that no man can put apart.
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Thank you so much for this. We are getting back to praying together.
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