This is hard:

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I’m naturally a feeling person. And when I feel a certain way it’s hard for me to not feel that way anymore. As a parent, I want nothing but the best for my children. I don’t tell my kids how to live their lives but I do try to direct and guide them when it’s asked. For some reason no matter how I try to guide my daughter it always seems to be the opposite with her. She wasn’t feeling good yesterday and I as mom was helping her, but then her friend calls and takes her for ice cream. Talk about a slap in the face. I have had it with her. I feel like no matter what I do or say she will do what she wants anyway. And I want to help her, but honestly, I feel like she needs to bump her head and learn the hard way in life. No matter what I say it’s her friends always. Well, we are going to see how many of your friends will care if you caught COVID our not get a scholarship for next semester. How many of your friends are going, to be honest about you doing what you need to do for things to be better for you in the future? It’s frustrating because she is such a bright girl but just so naive when it comes to who has your back. I think it’s time for me to let go and let God. I have prayed about it and have spoken to her about it but only God can move her heart. We’ll keep me in your thoughts and prayers. This is hard for me right now.

12 thoughts on “This is hard:

  1. I’m not a parent but may not relate entirely to your position but maybe i can shed some light. Assuming your daughter is a young adult or teen, i think it’s just a phase of life we go through. I’ve been there myself and currently at 25 by God’s grace realised who’s truly got my back compared to my earlier years in adulthood. She’ll be fine and I don’t think you need to worry so long as she knows she can open up and come to you, she’ll do so when she’s ready. Same happened with me regarding my mother. Hope that helps, all the best

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  2. cfoster20, I have many kids and have gone through what you described and more. Keep your prayers going and no matter what, always be there and listen to them. They will come around after they learn a few lessons or perhaps have kids of their own. I applaud you and know it will all work itself out. You do need an incredible amount of patience. Between my wife and I, we have twelve children combined. We were tested and with three of our boys, we still pray for them. They are complete knuckleheads. If I didn’t know any better, I would say; where did we go wrong? However, being they have the power of choice it’s up to them to choose the right path as with your daughter choosing her friends over you. You seem like a wonderful mom. I am sure she will come around and remember who is truly there for her. You, her wonderful mom.

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    1. Whoa this really brought me to tears. Sometimes you feel all alone like your the only one going through it. I pray for her and her brother’s daily. I hope she realize how much I care for her. Twelve kids you have a lot of experience.

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      1. cfoster20, you are not alone. You are in good company. Prayer is a powerful thing NEVER cease it. We have brought most of our kids up in years of going to church. Only to watch all of them break away for years, to most of all of them coming full circle in doing the right things in life. Your prayers are the invisible currency you are investing for capital gains in the years to come. You will realize the fruits of your investment in the years to come. Thank you so much for sharing.

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  3. My son will turn 22 next week. I understand how a disobedient child may weigh on our hearts while also bringing us to our knees on a regular basis. That’s a wonderful thing; we need to surrender our adult children to God rather than battle in the flesh. Prayer is extremely powerful, and when we pray God’s Word over our children, His Word will bring about change in ways that neither our words nor our deeds can.

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