I still remember how I met my husband. I remember how much fun we use to have and all the times that we would look at each other and bust out laughing. We still enjoy having fun with one another and we still look at each other and just laugh. But something in me has changed since then. I still love him and want to be married to him. I guess for me a huge part of it is that I don’t want to be like my mom and go through a bitter divorce. It took my mom years before she got over my dad and what the divorce did to her. Growing up I had to see her go through depression and just not knowing how she could take care of me. I also heard how angry she was at not getting any help from my dad. My parents were just married for seven years. I’m going on ten years next month. I don’t want to mess this up. I want to get this thing called marriage right. It has been a journey and it hasn’t always been easy. There were times when I just wanted to quit and walk away. But when you are married to someone who truly cares about you and is your best friend it’s hard to give up. You may not always like what they do but it doesn’t mean that you have to give up on them. I didn’t get to see what marriage was really like one on one. Growing up in a single parent home didn’t make me want to be married because of the thought of divorce and how I could end up. But now I realize it’s not like that. There are times when divorce is an option because of how your being treated. I’m learning how to be a much better wife. I’m trying to get it right.
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it sounds as you know what you are doing. Trust in God to help you. Congrats
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Such a raw and honest depiction of the realities of love and intimacy. Congratulations on celebrating ten years together thats amazing and may there be many many more ❤️
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Think about the kind of marriage you want to have, not about what you don’t want. Picture your future in a great relationship with your best friend. Take care.
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You have the ingredients for a long and successful marriage: friendship, laughter, and a heart desire to be the best wife you can be. God honors the desires of our heart when it lines up with His Word. Marriage is His Institution, created from the beginning of time. To ensure the next 10 years go even better, I encourage you to read Titus 2:3-5, and read the stories of Abigail and Esther, 2 women who honored God as wives. Remember this: your greatest weapon in securing longevity is an active prayer life coupled with the heart attitude to do it God’s way. Many blessings to you!
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I’m so proud of you, giving up is easy, but working hard to make it work requires so much strength. Of course, there are circumstances when someone should get out, but this post shows a lot of strength and determination!
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Marriage is rough! But as long as you try it gets better. Still experience bad days and days you want to run for your life! LOL
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Lol right
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Wow, this is a deep post sister. I am proud to hear that you are going on ten years in your marriage. I think we all learned something from our parents’ marriages, even people in double parent families. You will not mess it up. You will do great. Do not rely on your own strength alone, but also rely on the strength of God. God is love, and where there is love, there is God. It is God who strengthens us to carry on when we are weak. The Bible shows us that God cares about marriage and his will for us is for our marriages to be successful.
The Bible says in Proverbs 19:14
“House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord”.
The Bible says in Proverbs Proverbs 31:10
“An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels”.
The Bible says in Proverbs 18:22
“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord”.
So you see, God cares about marriages, and about women in marriages. Women are appreciated and we are celebrated. Your husband is lucky to have you. Whenever you are weak, take it to God in prayer, pray to him to give you the strength to be the woman that your husband needs. I am sure that God would love to hear from you, and to be a witness to your marriage.
If you are interested, I have a blog post that speaks on how to build or deepen our relationship with God. The post is here:
https://christcenteredruminations.wordpress.com/2018/08/29/how-to-build-a-relationship-with-god/
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May God’s blessing be with you and your wonderful family, Amen. 🙂
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Thank you so much for your kind words. I will definitely check out the post and follow you.
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