Let’s talk:

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I dislike when people don’t take responsibility for there own actions. When it comes to any relationship what you are doing or not doing starts with you. If you don’t like something about your spouse/boyfriend then you should look at yourself first and not the other person. You could be the cause of your dislike. And then again it could be the other person. You can’t expect someone to read your mind about your wants and needs. Let them know what you want and need. Yes, it would be nice if they saw you crying that they would give you a hug or a shoulder to cry on. But if that doesn’t happen it doesn’t make that person a bad person. Maybe they have done that before and you responded negatively. Working on your issues and being the best person you can be will help make your relationship a lot better. How about if you want your spouse/boyfriend to be more respectful why don’t you start giving them respect. If you want your spouse/boyfriend to be more loving then show them, love. I get tired of people talking about what the other person is not doing. What about you what are you doing besides complaining? It all starts with you, if you be the change that you want to see in your relationship then things will get better. It’s not always the other person who needs to change but ourselves.

7 thoughts on “Let’s talk:

  1. I completely agree with you! Sometimes we are not willing to be alone long enough to even go inward to figure out what our needs are. I have been one to start relationships for the wrong reasons and each time expecting different results. You can’t keep doing the same things and expecting a different outcome.

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  2. I didn’t learn that until I heard my hubby’s first first yell at him over the phone and I saw his posture. She did that through their entire marriage. I remember, he and I dated while they were going through a separation. She was a bully. Anytime anything goes wrong in the home, he starts apologizing profusely like a bullied person. I know the feeling, I was bullied. So, marriages take work, lots of work. Some days are going to be good, some bad. Just be sure to keep talking, yelling, screaming, laughing, crying. It’s when you stop communicating….

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    1. That’s my husband as well – he was bullied and can’t handle any sort of confrontation. And to him, “confrontation” can run anything along a spectrum between fights of any kind to having an opinion on something like “hey, I didn’t like that recipe as much as some others we’ve tried”. I finally learned I need to ask very direct questions if I want answers; I can’t read his mind, and he’s not going to offer up anything willingly. Either way, communicate.

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