I dislike when people don’t take responsibility for there own actions. When it comes to any relationship what you are doing or not doing starts with you. If you don’t like something about your spouse/boyfriend then you should look at yourself first and not the other person. You could be the cause of your dislike. And then again it could be the other person. You can’t expect someone to read your mind about your wants and needs. Let them know what you want and need. Yes, it would be nice if they saw you crying that they would give you a hug or a shoulder to cry on. But if that doesn’t happen it doesn’t make that person a bad person. Maybe they have done that before and you responded negatively. Working on your issues and being the best person you can be will help make your relationship a lot better. How about if you want your spouse/boyfriend to be more respectful why don’t you start giving them respect. If you want your spouse/boyfriend to be more loving then show them, love. I get tired of people talking about what the other person is not doing. What about you what are you doing besides complaining? It all starts with you, if you be the change that you want to see in your relationship then things will get better. It’s not always the other person who needs to change but ourselves.