Love is patient:

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Love is patient love is kind. I’m trying to strive for this in my life. I’m learning that the older that I get the less patience that I have. I feel like I’m kind but I could be kinder. Okay, maybe I shouldn’t use age as an excuse for my impatience because I’ve been like this for as long as I can remember. I don’t like being late, I don’t like waiting on other people and if you don’t get it done I will do it for you. WOW okay, I have issues. So this morning my daughter was saying that she needed to wash clothes because she was low. So I took it upon myself to wash some clothes for her this morning. And as I go into her room I decided to start cleaning it up. After pulling clothes that were on her floor in her closet I completely lost it. First of all, I should be taking care of myself, but I never do. Second of all, I have helped her clean her room so many times I can’t even count. And now I’m pissed because I feel like I’m being taken for granted. The only thing that I ask of my daughter is to keep her grades up ( which she does), clean her room and bathroom and help around the house. I don’t ask for much really, but she is grown now. Some may not think 18 is grown but to me your old enough where someone shouldn’t have to keep telling you the same thing over and over again. So I’m done. No more nice mom or as she calls me momma bear. Nice gloves are coming off and we are going to have a nice talk tonight. At some point, you have got to want to do better for yourself. I will help my children and any way possible but you have to help yourself first. I don’t know if it’s because she’s a girl or the last child but I give her to much slack. Not anymore. It’s time to grow up and do better. Has anyone else ever dealt with anything like this???

3 thoughts on “Love is patient:

  1. I don’t really have much in the way of advice but I feel your pain. It’s difficult adjusting to grown kids under your roof. Tbh I just shut the door of their rooms most of the time these days. On the whole I leave them to do their own washing and ironing and definitely cleaning of their rooms. I ask for help with tidying up the kitchen and making dinner – I don’t always get it though. It’s a bit like having lodgers I suppose except they don’t pay!! 😝

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    1. She has her door shut when she comes home but at some point you have to learn. No one wants to deal with mess. When she was working she took direction great but at home nothing.


  2. I experienced it with our daughters as teenagers. They are now 27 and 30 and on their own now but when in our house things had to quickly change.

    On the other hand our 22 years old son has Autism and has been cleaning up, washing clothes since he was six. Everything must be in order.

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