I’m sitting here listening to the rain and reflecting on my life. Here is a question that has been on my mind. Why don’t you tell your spouse what you need from him? Well, I’m not a great communicator. That shouldn’t be an excuse right? RIght. But the truth is I’m not. I’m a physical touch type of girl. I have always been a physical touch type of girl. I love hugs, kissing, hand holding all of that. But my husband is not that type of guy. When I was hurt I got none of that. And that made me mad. Why didn’t I just tell him that’s what I needed? Well, I’m a surfer talker. It’s easy just say that you want some affection right? Wrong. I don’t know why I can’t say it. But this morning I told my husband this is what I need the most. He was like why didn’t I just tell him instead of always being angry with him about my expectations that he knew nothing about. Well, that’s where communication comes in. I’m working hard on my communication. I love just taking the time to sit back and just think. Working on me is bettering me. I have a long way to go but I’m going to get there. When you tell people what you need it makes life a little easier.
Communication:
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Been there. Are you familiar with the 5 Love Languages? It can be helpful in understanding your communication differences (my wife and I have different love languages, too).
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Yes I’m re-reading the book now.
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Work in this
Its important. For years I took ill treatment from people. I kept my anger and hurt feelings to myself. As a result I become angry, bitter and I lost my temper easy. I slowly learned how to speak up for myself.
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I’m learning how to do that now.
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Communication is key for sure 💕 I am learning so much of this in this season of my life too!
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I’m really bad about communicating what I need with my husband, too.
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Smiles.. Thank God you finally made it known to him. 😁
Yes ma’am, communication helps!!
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