So I’ve been married for 8 years now, and the conversations that I have with some married couples just rub me the wrong way. Why is it that you only want to abide by the vow that you feel like you want to abide to? So let’s take a minute to break down the wedding vows.
“Will you have this woman/man to be your wife/husband, to live together in holy marriage?
The first part of the vow is an easy one. Of course you will have this person to live together in holy marriage/matrimony.
Will you love her/him, comfort her/him, honor, and keep her/him in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to her/him as long as you both shall live?”
Will you love your spouse? That should be a yes right? Well what happens when your spouse makes you mad? Do you still love them? What if they don’t do things your way? How about if they forget your birthday? I bet these are things you didn’t think about as you were saying your vows huh?
Comfort your spouse? Has your spouse needed a shoulder to lean on? Were you there to hear about their day?
Honor and keep your spouse? Whoa this one is huge for real. Ummm so do we honor our spouse? Do we try to show that we honor them? Why not? Is it because we don’t feel like it? I can tell you from experience that when I first got married I did not honor my husband. I have learned through the years that honoring your spouse is great for your marriage.
In sickness and in health. Man I have seen many marriages end because of this vow. Why would you leave your spouse when they need you the most? This is one vow that I will never understand why couples divorce. When you go through things that should make you stronger. But for some reason couples feel like it’s a reason for end their marriage.
Forsaking all others. Let me say this again FORSAKING ALL OTHERS.
To me forsaking all others and be faithful as long as you both shall live go hand in hand.. This is a vow that most couples seem to not be able to understand. So it’s your wedding day and this is the vow you are reciting to your spouse, do you think about someone else as your saying this vow? I hope your not because if you are then your marriage was a lie from the beginning. I feel that if you think the grass is greener on the other side well usually it’s not. What your not getting from your spouse doesn’t mean that the next person will give it to you. Communication is so important in marriage all with spending time together. If you want your marriage to be what you feel like it should be then communicate. Have date nights, go on staycations. Do something where it’s just the two of you. Let your spouse know how you feel and try to work it out. Yes I know that their are other factors in which couples shouldn’t stay together like abuse, neglect, mistreatment and being unfaithful. I’m very passionate about marriage and I want couples to work it out and stay together. There’s a reason why the vows say to death do us part. God intended marriage to be until one of you dies. Trust me marriage is important and it’s something that you shouldn’t take lightly.